| There is a lot of confusion these days about | | | | Women can help this situation by saying when |
| what men want. The stereotype is that men are | | | | they feel hurt and why. Forget the idea that |
| only after one thing. And when they aren't | | | | if he really cared about you he would know. |
| having sex, they're consumed with work, | | | | Men are generally horrible mind readers. |
| sports, or video games. That is just as | | | | |
| cliché as the stereotype that you should | | | | Men can help the situation by thinking a |
| never give a woman your credit card. Sure | | | | little more before they speak. Ask your woman |
| there are men and women who live up to the | | | | questions about how she feels and really |
| stereotypes, but that's not really what men | | | | listen. If you entertain her need to get |
| want. | | | | feelings out on the table once in a while, |
| | | | you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. |
| Problems come in relationships when we decide | | | | |
| the stereotype is who we are supposed to be. | | | | It takes effort to bridge the communication |
| There is no law of nature that says men have | | | | gap but it's worth it. |
| to be pigs. Men sometimes don't even | | | | |
| understand what men want. | | | | What Men Want Myth #3: Men have to be in |
| | | | control of every situation. |
| This article will clear up some of the myths | | | | |
| about what men want and fight some of the | | | | Most men are fairly based in logical |
| dumb ideas we have about relationships. This | | | | thinking, or at least they think they are. So |
| is as much for men who are trying to live up | | | | if they find themselves in an illogical |
| to some ridiculous stereotype as it is for | | | | situation they may try to take control and |
| the women trying to figure them out. What men | | | | fix it. Men don't always need to be in |
| want is to be happy like everyone else. | | | | charge. What men want is for things to work |
| | | | well. That makes everyone happy and avoids |
| What Men Want Myth #1: Men only want sex. | | | | contention. |
| Relationships just get in the way. | | | | |
| | | | If a woman tells a man about a problem she's |
| This is the central idea the media have about | | | | having, he will try to think of a solution. |
| what"> men want . Sex is a big motivation for | | | | She may interpret this as meddling and |
| men, it's true. But that doesn't mean we're | | | | treating her like she's incapable of solving |
| just animals looking for something to hump. | | | | her own problems. That's because all she's |
| We care about people we love and want our | | | | trying to do by talking to him about it is |
| relationships to work for our partners too. | | | | emotionally unload, not ask for advice. |
| And we'll work for our relationships if we | | | | |
| think we can succeed. But what men want to | | | | Women, if you just need to unload tell your |
| stay in miserable relationships they can't | | | | man that's what you're doing. And realize |
| seem to fix? | | | | it's going to be hard for him because he |
| | | | won't like knowing something is out of order |
| One common source of conflict is when women | | | | and it's causing you pain. |
| use sex as a bargaining chip. You can't | | | | |
| connect with a man emotionally by holding | | | | Men, ask permission before giving advice. It |
| something over his head. He'll rebel. Good | | | | may be she already has a solution anyway. If |
| relationships come from collaboration, not | | | | she just needs someone to listen that's the |
| bargaining. When you show respect for your | | | | best thing you can do for her. |
| man and you make it clear what you want he | | | | |
| ought to respond. Otherwise, dump the slouch. | | | | What Men Want Myth #4: Men need their egos |
| | | | padded constantly. |
| What Men Want Myth #2: Men never want to | | | | |
| talk about relationships. Talking only makes | | | | Ego probably isn't the right word for it. Men |
| things worse. | | | | are generally as insecure as women. A man is |
| | | | supposed to be a knight in shining armor, |
| When a woman asks a man if he likes her hair | | | | provide for his woman, defend her from |
| what should he say? If he says no, will she | | | | enemies, and never ever cry. A man's biggest |
| thinks she's ugly and nothing she can do will | | | | fear is that his woman is going to be |
| please him. If he says no will she say, "So | | | | disappointed in him and even go find a better |
| you didn't like it before?" | | | | provider. |
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| This kind of scenario happens frequently | | | | So men aren't being completely selfish when |
| between men and women and it's frustrating | | | | they fish for praise. What men want to know |
| for both. For many men, talking about | | | | is that they are still satisfying their |
| relationships usually means at some point | | | | women's needs. They want to know she is still |
| apologizing for saying something, but you | | | | impressed by him and happy with the |
| don't know what. It stems from a difference | | | | relationship. |
| in communication styles. Women generally talk | | | | |
| to build closeness. Men talk to solve | | | | So, women, don't roll your eyes too much when |
| problems. It's not that men don't want to | | | | your man shows off for you. Down deep he |
| talk about relationships. what"> men want is | | | | really needs your approval. In the long run |
| an assurance that they aren't going to step | | | | appreciation will reap appreciation. You'll |
| on a landmine when they do. | | | | get what you need when you give the same. |
| | | | Men, same advice for you. |