| There is a lot of confusion these days about what | | | | Women can help this situation by saying when they |
| men want. The stereotype is that men are only after | | | | feel hurt and why. Forget the idea that if he really |
| one thing. And when they aren't having sex, they're | | | | cared about you he would know. Men are generally |
| consumed with work, sports, or video games. That is | | | | horrible mind readers. |
| just as cliché as the stereotype that you should | | | | Men can help the situation by thinking a little more |
| never give a woman your credit card. Sure there are | | | | before they speak. Ask your woman questions about |
| men and women who live up to the stereotypes, but | | | | how she feels and really listen. If you entertain her |
| that's not really what men want. | | | | need to get feelings out on the table once in a while, |
| Problems come in relationships when we decide the | | | | you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. |
| stereotype is who we are supposed to be. There is | | | | It takes effort to bridge the communication gap but it's |
| no law of nature that says men have to be pigs. Men | | | | worth it. |
| sometimes don't even understand what men want. | | | | What Men Want Myth #3: Men have to be in control |
| This article will clear up some of the myths about what | | | | of every situation. |
| men want and fight some of the dumb ideas we have | | | | Most men are fairly based in logical thinking, or at least |
| about relationships. This is as much for men who are | | | | they think they are. So if they find themselves in an |
| trying to live up to some ridiculous stereotype as it is | | | | illogical situation they may try to take control and fix it. |
| for the women trying to figure them out. What men | | | | Men don't always need to be in charge. What men |
| want is to be happy like everyone else. | | | | want is for things to work well. That makes everyone |
| What Men Want Myth #1: Men only want sex. | | | | happy and avoids contention. |
| Relationships just get in the way. | | | | If a woman tells a man about a problem she's having, |
| This is the central idea the media have about what"> | | | | he will try to think of a solution. She may interpret this |
| men want . Sex is a big motivation for men, it's true. | | | | as meddling and treating her like she's incapable of |
| But that doesn't mean we're just animals looking for | | | | solving her own problems. That's because all she's |
| something to hump. We care about people we love | | | | trying to do by talking to him about it is emotionally |
| and want our relationships to work for our partners | | | | unload, not ask for advice. |
| too. And we'll work for our relationships if we think we | | | | Women, if you just need to unload tell your man that's |
| can succeed. But what men want to stay in miserable | | | | what you're doing. And realize it's going to be hard for |
| relationships they can't seem to fix? | | | | him because he won't like knowing something is out of |
| One common source of conflict is when women use | | | | order and it's causing you pain. |
| sex as a bargaining chip. You can't connect with a | | | | Men, ask permission before giving advice. It may be |
| man emotionally by holding something over his head. | | | | she already has a solution anyway. If she just needs |
| He'll rebel. Good relationships come from collaboration, | | | | someone to listen that's the best thing you can do for |
| not bargaining. When you show respect for your man | | | | her. |
| and you make it clear what you want he ought to | | | | What Men Want Myth #4: Men need their egos |
| respond. Otherwise, dump the slouch. | | | | padded constantly. |
| What Men Want Myth #2: Men never want to talk | | | | Ego probably isn't the right word for it. Men are |
| about relationships. Talking only makes things worse. | | | | generally as insecure as women. A man is supposed |
| When a woman asks a man if he likes her hair what | | | | to be a knight in shining armor, provide for his woman, |
| should he say? If he says no, will she thinks she's ugly | | | | defend her from enemies, and never ever cry. A |
| and nothing she can do will please him. If he says no | | | | man's biggest fear is that his woman is going to be |
| will she say, "So you didn't like it before?" | | | | disappointed in him and even go find a better provider. |
| This kind of scenario happens frequently between | | | | So men aren't being completely selfish when they fish |
| men and women and it's frustrating for both. For many | | | | for praise. What men want to know is that they are |
| men, talking about relationships usually means at some | | | | still satisfying their women's needs. They want to know |
| point apologizing for saying something, but you don't | | | | she is still impressed by him and happy with the |
| know what. It stems from a difference in | | | | relationship. |
| communication styles. Women generally talk to build | | | | So, women, don't roll your eyes too much when your |
| closeness. Men talk to solve problems. It's not that men | | | | man shows off for you. Down deep he really needs |
| don't want to talk about relationships. what"> men | | | | your approval. In the long run appreciation will reap |
| want is an assurance that they aren't going to step on | | | | appreciation. You'll get what you need when you give |
| a landmine when they do. | | | | the same. Men, same advice for you. |