Fear, Focus, and Then Some

Change is inevitable. Change is Life. Change is Good.Golden Gate Bridge was first created in someone's
These are the things that come to mind when I hearmind. There is no other place for it to begin.
the word change. Even as I sit here on this beautiful,Our thoughts lead to our actions, and our actions
slightly overcast morning listening to the birds chirpingcreate the circumstances of our lives. Therefore, if we
and sipping my coffee, I know that today will bedesire a positive, loving, fun, joyous relationship with
different than every day before this and every daysomeone, perhaps we have to risk being viewed as
after this.silly, crazy, weak and perhaps even vulnerable.
I especially know that what I choose to do today willThoughts race through our minds. What if they don't
affect everyday that comes after this day. Mylike me? What if I screw it up? What if the relationship
thoughts, words and actions, like a stone thrown into agets worse instead of better?
pond, will create ripples in this world for years to come.These questions provoke thoughts of fear. They
So, what do I choose to do this day? And perhapsfrighten us and immobilize us. They cause agita and
more important, what do I choose to change this day?grief. They keep us from taking action, and they keep
There is a saying that goes "If you keep on doing theus from what we desire.
things you've always done, you'll keep on getting theThe key to change without fear is focus.
things you've always got". We all know this to be true,It is asking empowering, positive questions. It is keeping
and yet sometimes we just can't seem to make theyour goal, the desired outcome at the front of your
change we know is necessary to get to the outcomethoughts at all times without fail. It is never losing sight
we desire. Why is this? Why do we get "stuck"?of your dreams. It is being vigilant. It is in expecting
It all comes down to a matter of Focus.change, instigating change, and in fact, learning to love
Let's say we desire to have a better relationship withchange that allows us to grow toward and become
a specific person in our life - our partner, our boss, athat which we desire.
child, a friend. We decide we would like moreTo change without fear, we must recognize that fear
openness, a greater level of intimacy, more fun andis a thought that focuses on something that hasn't
more time together.happened yet and something that may never happen
In order for these new, enhanced, different feelings toat all. Fear isn't real. Fear is in our minds. Fear is a
exist, we must DO something different. We mustthought that we can control. To change without fear
CHANGE. We must either change what we do, whatwe must control our thoughts and our focus. We must
we say, or how we respond. And first - we mustrelease fear. In doing this, we can change and grow
change our Focus. Where does our Focus comewith ease.
from? Our Focus comes from our thoughts.Change is inevitable. Change is Life. Change is Good.
Nothing in this world happens and no feelings existNow, that's Powerful!
without first being a thought in someone's mind. The